feeling it and saying it

"Oops that didnt come out right".

Was it because you might hurt or have already hurt someone else's feelings? Or was it a genuine case of wrong choice of words? By "taking back" what you said, did it change how you actually felt?

Most of the time, no.

The difference between:
"What, it took you 3 hours to get here cos your dog pee'd in the prada boutique and you have to phone your maid down to clean up, then try on every dress on the shelf to buy something so that the sales manager wont ban you from the shop??"
and
"I dont appreciate being kept waiting each time we go out. Please try to work out something between the meeting time which we agreed on, and the meeting time that is actually registered in your head."

Sorry it's me; that has to be some form of sarcasm in whatever political statements I make.

It's a different way of putting forth a point, but it doesnt change how you feel. You are pissed . Very pissed. Whether it's the courtesy of a reminder or screwing the person right out, the fact remains. For that matter, even if you remove that irresponsible friend from your life temporarily or give her the benefit of the doubt for the last time, it doesnt change the truth that you are angry.

Feelings subside, however you might have reacted at that immediate moment.

It is difficult to weigh the consequences on satisfying a selfish outburst which you are entitled to. Sometimes that selfish outburst solves the problem more quickly.

Sometimes...